But, in the Boy Scouts, during my seventh grade year, I unfortunately, during one of the fundraisers that they had, came across a family from Cub Scout, that was in that was part of our Boy Scout troop, and, you know, they were a family, it was relatively innocuous.
And that day, after the fundraiser, they offered to give my cousin and I a ride home and we ended up actually going back to their house and, you know, getting to know them a little bit more and over time, you know, they sort of, they formed this bond a little bit with us. And we would go back over to their house sometimes just to help with yard work, and I remember actually, that was sort of the initial process in which my victimizer, who was a woman, who was the wife of… and the mother of this Cub Scout in my Boy Scout troop, began to essentially groom me.
It first started off as some of the inappropriate behaviors, like wrestling and tickling, you know, and, you know, and I, you know, and I, you know, had developed a crush on her, and so I was like, oh, this is fun, you know, like she's tickling me and, you know, doing all these things to me and, you know, I thought it was fun, and, you know, I thought that this was what I wanted to do.
So, there comes a point where that sexual abuse escalates even further into a statutory rape situation. Again, something that I thought that I wanted at that time because I thought that I loved this woman, and I thought that I was eventually going to be with her, and that she was the only one that really cared for me. And so I'm, you know, spending time at this house, all of this is happening, I'm cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids, and, you know, this the sexual abuse and this emotional abuse is taking hold, and I end up in a situation where the… it was essentially a cycle of violence.
Sometimes racial epithets were used. It's worth noting, that she was a white woman and I was this, you know, mixed kid, and, you know, and her family, you know, on a pretty regular basis would also, you know, refer to me as the n-word and, you know, they definitely wanted me gone. They thought that I was, you know, why was I this kid that was living there and, you know, her excuse was, you know, to them that, you know, James doesn't have anywhere to go, there's this abusive situation happening in his house, like, we need to take care of him. Meanwhile, you know, she herself is sexually abusing and exploiting me for labor.
You know, unfortunately, in pop culture, it's sort of been normalized, this idea of Taken, people being kidnapped off the streets, all this that, you know, certainly it happens, but it's very rare. Most trafficking situations are actually skilled child predators who target young vulnerable children, who lack self-esteem, who have things going on in their background or in their household, that make it easier for someone to come in and show that love, affection, and attention that the child isn't getting, and develop that exploitative relationship, and, you know, and whether you're talking about sex trafficking or labor trafficking the dynamic can be very, very similar.